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Is anybody else sick to death of this stupid argument about the defense of marriage?  

And why are people so defensive about marriage anyhow?  

I was born without the marriage gene. No part of me has ever fantasized about my wedding day, my dress, my invitations… Seriously, I HAVE NEVER THOUGHT ABOUT GETTING MARRIED…  

This is what strikes me as stupid about the whole thing:

1. The wedding industry has become one of the biggest businesses in America. People spend tens of thousands of dollars on some stupid party when half of them won’t have reason to think about which gemstone represents the 5 year mark;

2. Other than the benefits society bestows on married types, there don’t seem to be many perks to the situation. I see more unhappy, bitter married people these days than lonely, single ones;

3. Stuckness. We all get stuck sometimes, but when one feels trapped in a relationship, there’s no good can come of that…. 

It’s not really that I’m against marriage as an institution. When marriage works, it’s a beautiful thing. But to make it work, two people have to understand that even though they “cleave unto each other”, they’re still separate people and not all that they have to offer the world involves the other. 

I don’t think God set up this commitment in order to breed jealousy and envy. God set it up so that there would be TWO people helping each other to navigate the world; two people who understand each other very deeply, in ways that most others can’t.   

When marriage is defined as being between a man and a woman exclusively, as most people claim to be the only true definition of marriage, it negates the idea that anyone else can have the same understanding of another. Truly, does having sex with another person really create the sort of supportive relationship that makes picking up bread and milk at the store a more meaningful act?  

Sure, blame it on the homosexuals for creating the idea that any alternative to “the norm” is going to make everyone stop wanting to be married anymore. Go ahead, absolve yourself of the responsibility of making a relationship with another human being fulfilling without a piece of paper that SAYS SO….  

Rather than take an accusatory stance and say that gay marriage is morally wrong, why can’t people simply understand that many people in the world (50% in America) have come to the conclusion that they don’t want to be defined so narrowly? They’ve tried the big wedding idea and found out that it didn’t serve them in the way they wanted it to. And perhaps it prevented them from serving the world in the way they were meant to.  

I heard the other day that the overpopulation of the world is not such an issue anymore, that we can start having babies again. That’s usually the excuse for marriage to be between a man and a woman, even though a great number of babies are already not born into that situation. Is it even possible to reverse the direction, the momentum of a society that has moved toward a more open and inclusive orientation? 

There is much that I judge in our society around the idea of relationships–I admit it. I think we’ve become far too fast and loose with our affections and interactions, and we treat people both physically and emotionally with far too little respect.

What I would like to see is a definition of intimate interconnection that is not so reliant on couples of childbearing age. There is certainly a place for that and if we ever really see a crisis in the underpopulation of the world, I’m sure something can be worked out. 

Come on out, Mr. President, and see what evils are taking place in the homes of 90% of the homosexuals in this country. I have a feeling you’ll be terribly disappointed… 

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  1. April 3, 2008 at 9:37 pm

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